life sucks

Yesterday was a long day spent away from my computer, which was cool but also meant that I forgot to throw this sucker up here. My apologies. Happy belated Monday! 

The opening line of one of my favorite artists, Ben Rector's, songs goes like this, "Here's the truth: life sucks sometimes." 

He's not wrong. 

I'm not sure if this post is going to be kind of a downer or whatever, but here it is. I like to write things that are somewhat encouraging and that maybe nudge people in the direction of living good lives, but it would be incredibly disingenuous if we all pretended like that's the only thing we need to hear. Because that's not all life is. Life is not exclusively rainbows and butterflies, it's compromise that moves us along. But we're getting off topic. 

The truth is, yeah, life sucks sometimes. Sometimes little terrible things keep happening that continue to gnaw away at your good attitude and positivity until your left with a worse-for-wear outlook on life. Sometimes one big thing you didn't expect to happen derails your entire week and you feel broken and lost and like there's not ever going to be anything that can make you feel better. Sometimes, things just don't go your way. And it sucks. 

The problem with life being kind of sucky sometimes is that it ends up making its way into our brains and sitting there festering until it rots our thoughts too. A lot of people I know like to refuse that anything is wrong when everything is wrong. They continue to plaster a smile on their face and use every muscle in their body to keep it there instead of letting it falter and giving in to being upset. That's all fine and good. People deal with things in their own way. If powering through the pain is your way of dealing with it--dope. You do you. 

However, if the only reason you're not letting it get to you is because you feel like you don't have license to feel bad for yourself or like you aren't allowed to be upset, that's when it's not okay. Everyone has bad days. Everyone has bad weeks. Everyone's life sucks sometimes. You're not a criminal or a heathen for hunkering down for a couple days and just being upset. Often times, you have to let yourself be broken down before you can be built back up. 

I don't have any advice for how to deal with a bad day or a "life sucks" moment. I'm still figuring that out for myself. What I can tell you is this: it's okay to not be okay. So spend a day in bed or cry for a little bit or just wallow for a while. Life sucks sometimes, and that's normal.