you learn something new every day

I am a day late. 

On the blog post, chill guys. It's cool though because yesterday I didn't know what I know now. Remember when your parents used to always tell you, 'you learn something new every day'? This is that. Let me explain.

A few weeks ago, a film was cast and the nature of the casting significantly upset me. A lot of it had to do with race and what I believed was right or wrong when casting a role with a specific ethnicity. I'm still pretty heated about it all, but if we're being perfectly honest--before last night--I never stopped once to think that there might be a different way to look at it. 

Last night, I went to dinner with a group of people that I'll be working with for the next two months. I've never been a part of a group with such a wide array of personalities and opinions and it's actually very exciting. We've known each other for only a week and we've already covered our views on politics, religion, race, sexuality, and any other controversial topic you can think of. We all have varying perspectives and opinions, but we manage to discuss them in an open-minded and healthy way, which is dope. I've never been a close-minded person and, while I hold my beliefs close to my heart, I am always down to hear differing ideas. How great am I, right? I like to pat myself on the back for that every now and then, but now I know better. 

While at dinner we briefly touched on the particular race issue that miffed me so much about the aforementioned film casting. I was pretty ready to have everyone agree with me because, in my head, there was absolutely no reason not to. Some people agreed. But some people didn't. Upon hearing someone disagree, I felt an immediate need to push back and explain away my opinion to convince this person that they were wrong. Until they explained their point of view. When I stopped to listen to their perspective, I learned that there was more than one way to go about it in a logical way. Neither of us were "right," but neither of us were "wrong" either. 

I still stand by the way I feel about the issue, but I stand by it with the reminder that it's okay that not everyone else does. I realize this sounds extremely simple, but when you feel passionately about something it's hard to remember something like that in the heat of a moment.

My unsolicited advice today is this: 
1. Ask someone their opinion
2. Listen to it
3. Remember that you don't have to agree (or even disagree)
4. Learn something new

 

 

Piper